Relationships are beautiful and full of shades and emotions.
A new relationship begins with two people coming together with their own set of colours.
And their relationship is a mixed pastel of both palates which makes it rich and fresh!
It’s like you rub off with this relationship and you too get its shade and you love being it.
But yes in all of it, you have your individuality too – which still exists and in today’s world, we strongly believe in treasuring it.
Perhaps, in earlier days one of the partners used to lose his or herself in this shade of their relationship out of surrender or being consumed etc.
Anyways, this journey of togetherness does come with its baggage of happy and not-so-happy moments. And with all of these, with so much happening in personal and professional life – all these things change us from within. So we also start changing as an individual slowly. All these changes are so subtle that we are mostly unaware of it or we lack in observing it, in the moment. Perhaps we’re also consumed with the highs and lows of our relationships.
Gradually though, all these external factors in and around us also start impacting our relationship, and eventually, the shade of the core relationship also undergoes a sublime change.
And we are not prepared for these changes, so we feel detached from the colours and we keep comparing it to the initial phase…. we feel we are disconnected from the person….. While the reality could be vastly different, we might be disconnected from the new shade of the relationship.
If we don’t stop searching for the same colour same space…it would be disappointing.
So we say, Explore LOVE and explore the same person in a different dimension…..you might love that too.
We all have our own apprehensions/ conditioning that impacts our capacity to experiment…..as we always want a go back to a known comfort zone.
Through this long explanation… the point I want to make is this – In this journey of togetherness….if we keep observing ourselves mindfully….we might understand our own contributions to this changing relationship….. and that might give us a glimpse of why we are feeling disconnected at present.
If in such a relationship we create a beautiful loveable space of freedom for the relationship to grow and transform without limitation, then we might find ourselves breathing freely in it.
More giving love than demanding.
We will never feel detached if we keep associating it’s changing nature and keep loving it as we love ourselves ( irrespective of all the changes )…this will always keep this bond fresh and rejuvenating.
It’s a beautiful place of Love
Where only Love exists for them both
And this is not unrealistic its very much achievable….
By Charu C